So you are in your senior year at Ramapo

Mornings Suck

You Greet Your Papers Like This :

School is never ending : 

You calculate the lowest grades needed to graduate :

Halfway through the day you are like :

You show up for your class for the first time in three weeks and your professor is like:

Getting lunch in the atrium and you see all the underclassmen : 

Then you have to avoid all the people you have hooked up with over the last 4 years:

You've signed up for Yoga , Choir , Fundamentals of Lyrical Dance and Scuba Diving for your last semester:

But you can't find an internship to graduate :

Everything with Rama in front of it irritates you :

You have a running bar tab at MB & G :

Then you realize you aren't ready for the real world : 

So instead of embracing the impending doom of becoming an adult you are just going to eat your feelings:

And watch 16 hours of Netflix :

And when people ask you what you are going to do when you graduate :

IN DEFENSE OF BEING HUMAN

I walked into my senior year with high hopes for my favorite place in the world: Ramapo College and yet something happened in the last 3 weeks that hurt my heart.  After finding myself as part of the queer community for years – it wasn’t until I started expressing myself the way I wanted did I begin to get attacked based on my appearance on both a personal and professional level.

For those of you who have been attacked , stereotyped or oppressed in any way based on your appearance – I admit being an average height , average sized , white female with blue eyes and mid length red hair spoiled me over the years because I never truly understood or perhaps I chose not to acknowledge being oppressed based on my appearance.  For those of us who have admitted that judgmental voice oppressing others …. This is me calling you to action. I don’t want to physically see your green dot.  I want you to FEEL your green dot in this community. I want you to walk past people and think – I know this person is a great athlete, leader, singer, academic etc. not “Ew, she looks like Miley Cyrus and works in the Women’s Center …what a *inappropriate word*”

Yes, in fact, I overheard this being said about me.  This is Ramapo. We are a diverse community – I am proud to be a Roadrunner for all 4 years – for LIFE because in our community we challenge oppression, we dismantle prejudices, discriminatory ideals and statements, this is an anti-racist, non-sexist, queer affirmative community – We are a safe community and yet, how many of us treat each other with respect as human?

I was interviewed for a position on campus and asked at one point “How do you plan to make yourself approachable… you know because of your facial piercing and your haircut??”  I assure you I almost fell off my chair at this point. What? Since when did having short hair become a disease? What is this 1944? You think you can catch my intimidating queer status because I have short hair? Instead I politely explained that my appearance should not in any way be a factor in my ability to carry out this position.

After this, I started to feel oppressed. I began to feel like I had to wear feminine headbands, and earrings and makeup so people were not intimidated by my appearance. I briefly stopped feeling comfortable in my ripped jeans and skull shirts – something I have worn since I was about 15. What happened in the last 3 weeks that changed my status as a human for the last 22 years? What is it about my hair that made me stick out in the Greek community – that allowed me to have a fraternity friend walk up to me and state “My brothers thought you were straight… but are you gay?”

So what am I then? I am human. This is my defense to this fear of my expression. Defend yourself for being human. Wear what you want because that is how you want to feel. Have hair down to your ankles or shave it all off. Pierce anything you want, forgot “gender stereotypes” – be a human. I defend you , I stand by you no matter your choice because that is what makes you unique. This is what makes you human.

You are loved for who you are Ramapo.

Start loving each other. Be brave, be you.

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What's Going On At The Women's Center!

Hi All!

Quick blog about what we are doing, why we are so busy, and a context for what themes you may see in our blog this week! Come check us out at Ramapo College of New Jersey!

This week is Violence Awareness Week! There is a whole lot going on in and around the Women's Center that we would love to see you take part in. Today, the YWCA of Bergen County Rape Crisis Center is here displaying the Clothesline Project. The Clothesline Project (CLP) is a collection of shirts with statements about sexual assault and domestic violence hand made by survivors. It will be displayed outside by the arch from now until 4 pm (weather permitting.)