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Founded in 1974, the Women’s Center was established to:
Dismantle, from a feminist perspective, all forms of oppression, including but not limited to those based on ability, age, class, ethnicity, gender, race, and sexual orientation.
Advocate for an equitable environment free from violence and harassment based on gender, race, and sexual orientation.
Create an anti-racist, non-sexist, queer-affirmative space where all people can feel valued and safe.
Facilitate and strengthen connections among people across lines of difference through programming and educational campaigns.
Integrate an appreciation of Women's Gender and Multicultural Studies across the disciplines.
Thursday, March 6, 2014
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Watch a funny movie or TV show on Netflix. Take a time out from whatever your stressors are and watch something mindless that you know will make you laugh. (One of my personal favorites is The Office!) Ask your friends and roommates to join you as well- laughter is the best medicine!
Take a shower. Sometimes when stress and anxiety take over, personal hygiene becomes less of a priority. Even when you don't want to get out of bed and the thought of a shower seems overwhelming, force yourself. Take a long hot shower and remember how important self care is. It's refreshing and can really help to clear your mind.
Organize something. Go through your drawers, cabinets, and closets. Rearrange your furniture. Clean up a little and add some new decorations. Hang an inspiring quote on the wall. Organizing is therapeutic and can really help to alleviate anxiety.
Talk to a supportive friend or family member. Sometimes when anxiety takes over it becomes really easy to isolate ourselves and withdraw from our friends and family. However, these are the people we need to embrace and learn to rely on when we need help. Talk to a friend about how you're feeling and let them be there for you. My mom has been my biggest supporter during the hard times and even when I'm not sure what I want to say, giving her a call always makes me feel better.
Do something JUST for you. No matter what it is, do at least one thing during the day strictly to make you happy. Personally, I like to put make up on and pick out some jewelry to wear for the day. It helps me to feel confident (for myself!) and makes each day just a little better.
Write down one happy thought per day. This is something that has been so useful for me. Each night before I go to sleep, I jot down one thing that happened throughout the day that made me happy. No matter how bad a day may seem, there is ALWAYS something I can write down. Remember to find the happiness in each and every day, even if sometimes it's harder to find.
Remember this feeling WILL PASS! No matter how anxious or stressed you feel at any moment in time, remember this feeling will pass. Think back to the last time you were really anxious- you got through it then and you can get through it now. Take a few deep breaths and keep in mind that although your feelings are valid, they are also temporary.
Stress, anxiety, and other negative feelings can be extremely crippling. They take over and it seems impossible to pick yourself back up again. However, these feelings can be fought and self care during the bad times, no matter how hard it seems, is so important. Try one (or all!) of these tips to fight your stress and enjoy each day that much more!
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
- Tonight at 10pm in Friend's Hall is the official Kick-off event for the month featuring spoken word artist Suzi Q a dynamic peformer who's worked alongside many renowned artists such as Gil Scott Heron, Les Nubians, Dead Prez, The Flobots, Rev. Run, Jean Grae, Talib Kweli.
- We Can ALL Do It on Thursday March 6th from 12-2pm in the Student Center. A photo shoot that will include all different kinds of women and “how we can all be the “Rosie Riveter” of our time” and make our own choice to define our own form of feminism.
- We Can't Do What?! on Thursday March 13th at 1pm in B224, this program will feature Law & Society professor Mihaela Serban and a discussion on the different laws that affect women’s freedoms locally as well as nationwide.
- Women's Appreciation Banquet on March 27th from 12:30-2pm in Alumni Lounges this event is in its 7th year running; its purpose is to recognize the efforts and continued impact distinguished faculty and staff members have had on the college all of which are nominated by Ramapo individuals.
Monday, March 3, 2014
What does that mean to you? What does it mean to those around you? Most importantly how much respect do you demand from others and what boundaries do you set for yourself to make people respect those boundaries and therefore respect you?
Whether it is an romantic relationship, a friendship , or a relationship with your family members, it is essential for you to set standards for yourself, which will lead others to respect you and will allow others to know your meaning in life and what you are about.
In recent years, many young females are faced with the difficulty of receiving respect and/or putting out the message that respect themselves. With the misleading and derogatory images of women that are put out there due to the various media representation, young females are constantly fighting with the battle of respecting themselves and fitting in. We see in TV shows and movies that women are having problems getting the proper respect that they need and that they struggle with finding themselves and their worth. The scary part of this, is that it is not just in TV and Movies, females in our surrounding communities are facing these same battles. The questions is: Who is helping these young girls?
I am excited that tomorrow March 4, 2014, my organization will be hosting a respect yourself program with teenage girls from Paterson, NJ. It saddens me that most of them are pursuing relationships, but still lack the mentoring necessary to make the right decisions in life. I am hoping that this program will allow them to set standards for themselves and allow them to leave with a clearer mindset of what they want out of life and how they want others to treat them. I know that I can not help the entire female population, but I am hoping that I can start somewhere and impact as many lives as I can, and this program is the first step.
Friday, February 28, 2014
If you had asked me two years ago to explain the sociopolitical movement that is the queer movement, I probably couldn’t even begin to articulate a response. If you had asked me to present a Queer 101 presentation to the entire Ramapo Residence Life staff, I would have politely declined, too. And while these are things that come second-nature to me now, it’s been a journey of exploration and self-actualization to get here.
Had you asked me to do any of those things last year, I would have declined because, truth is, I wouldn't have felt prepared.
How does one actually begin to prepare to speak or present on behalf of one of society’s most historically oppressed and marginalized groups? Do my personal experiences with discrimination and homonegativity give me license to educate others on issues of inequality, microaggressions and hate crimes faced by people who identify like me? Am I educated enough on these issues? Am I “queer enough” to fully grasp concepts that affect the entire community of sexually and gender variant individuals?
These were all questions that danced around my head as I began to ponder my role as the newly appointed Queer Peer Services Coordinator last year.
I had just a few months between the summer break and fall semester to prepare for my role as the QPSC. I felt eager, but I just couldn't shake the overwhelming sense of apprehension. I worried that I, an upcoming sophomore student, wasn’t prepared to take on such a central, imperative role.
Thankfully, I was honored to attend Camp Pride’s 2013 leadership camp last summer; an experience that would later become a phenomenal leadership and personal growth experience for me. It was there, in Nashville, TN that I grew close with a hundred other student leaders—individuals with social agendas to help elevate the queer community. Like me, these students wanted nothing more than to create safer and more accepting environments for LGBT-identified individuals.
Meeting students from across the country, ones who thought like me and challenged me, helped me understand the multifaceted dimensions of identity and its relation to how we are perceived and how we perceive others. After just one week, many workshops and keynote speakers later, I had a completely different understanding of identity formation and its relation to some of history's most forward-thinking movements.
It was then that I realized I didn’t have to validate my knowledge and experiences as a queer person of color to anyone, much less because of a fancy title like "Queer Peer Services Coordinator." And I didn’t have to know everything right away.
Working in the Women’s Center and facilitating a weekly confidential peer listening group for queer individuals and their allies has helped me understand that my role as the QPSC is inherently tied to my lived experiences. I also know now that I am prepared to educate others on the sociocultural factors affecting the queer community. The knowledge all comes with time and personal growth—where I am in my life with activism and advocacy—and that’s all the validation and preparation I need to fulfill my role as a campus student leader and activist.
Until next time,
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
This event will be CEC for many different classes, so I encourage you all to check in with your professors in order to verify if it could apply for CEC for you.
Feminism Comes in Waves will be held in SC136 (The Alumni Lounges) at 7:30pm and there will be lots of food, and raffle for t-shirts and a $25 gift-card.
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
The topic of weight somehow exists simultaneously as a subject for public discussion as well as a shameful subject to be hidden. We are taught not to bring up weight or talk about it openly, but at the same time, weight is so frequently the subject of unsolicited advice or public commentary. For some reason, we (as a culture) seem to view it as "okay" to comment on another person's appearance if we can justify it by telling ourselves it is "for their own good." I'd like to make a few points that elaborate on why such comments are never, ever for someone else's own good.
So many times when I breach this topic with folks, the ultimate point that is made is that "I'm not biased against large people, it's just a fact that being fat is unhealthy. They should improve their diet and exercise more for their own well-being." The most important thing to bear in mind on this topic is that size is not directly correlated with health. Someone who is large may eat well and exercise regularly, whereas someone who is thin may live off of fast food. Just because someone is large does not mean they have an unhealthy lifestyle, and for that reason alone, it is completely inappropriate to offer unsolicited advice about health.
There are many reasons people are the size they are. Biologically, there are genetic sources that dictate fat storage, to some degree, called adipocytes.
These fat cells store lipids in our bodies and, like all cells, are happiest (so to speak) when they maintain a state of homeostasis. The adipocytes we are born with may be predisposed to store a lot or little fat, but either way they will work as hard as they can to maintain that level. No matter how much weight is lost, the number of adipocytes remains the same, and they will all push the body to return to the weight they are programmed for. In the case of a person whose fat cells store higher amounts, diet and exercise may be part of their lifestyle, but it simply will not dramatically affect their weight.
The standards to which society holds people to, in terms of size, are unreasonable. If we applied such arbitrary rules to other aspects of life, it would sound controlling--not to mention ridiculous. I'd like to look at things that are said to large people and analyze them as if they were said about other identities. Let's start with the concept I opened with; that being fat predisposes an individual for a number of health concerns. It is thought of as an unhealthy way of living because of the associations with diabetes and heart disease. Now, if we told light-skinned people to stop being light-skinned because of the clear association such a skin tone has with melanoma and other skin cancers, we'd be laughed at. Skin tone is something that is genetically determined and it is unethical, not mention rude, to assume someone would want to change it. To return to the subject of size, the same concept applies. Adipocytes are genetic factors that determine fat storage, and such factors are simply uncontrollable.
Now, I do understand that some people gain weight because of their lifestyle. They may not eat right or exercise regularly; but I also have points of defense for these situations as well. In many cases, socioeconomic status determines the kinds of food and exercise options available to a individual. If you are working two jobs, you frankly don't have time to go to the gym. If you have a very limited food budget, shopping at Whole Foods and buying fresh produce just isn't an option. As a point of comparison, getting a $100 hot stone massage once a day may indeed benefit your overall well-being, but that surely doesn't mean it is a viable option for you or your family.
But there are still people who can afford healthy food options and a gym membership who choose to eat fattening foods and choose to watch 4 episodes of Parks and Recreation instead of going on a bike ride. What's my point for those people? I have a very simple comparison that I think a number of readers can relate to. Even though raw cookie dough carries a risk of causing salmonella, how many people choose to eat it anyway? They are aware of the risk, but have weighed both sides, and decided that the enjoyment they will get out of the experience is worth it. This may or may not be true for everyone, but those of us who choose to eat the cookie dough have a right to make autonomous decisions for ourselves. We can own the consequences. At no point is this, in any way, anyone else's business.
The factors that contribute to human shapes and sizes are highly varied, but ultimately they are our own. At no point does any person relinquish ownership of their body for public scrutiny, and it is never okay to offer unsolicited advice on health. That being said, a woman interviewed for this great Cosmopolitan article makes an excellent point about when it may be appropriate to talk to someone about their weight and health:
"If you're thinking about confronting someone about their weight, is it really the weight that you have an issue with? Do they seem more tired or out of sorts? Talk to them about that. Do they seem really unhappy about themselves? Maybe compliment them about how cool they are. If you're just concerned that someone doesn't look as attractive to you anymore, the problem is you, not their weight"
Monday, February 24, 2014
Thursday, February 20, 2014
- Prep courses are your friend- reach out to your guidance counselor or adviser about your options to enroll in online or in-person courses. I was enrolled in an online course and had about 3-4 workbooks on the sections included in the exam
- Practice exams, look up free practice tests online so you can get an idea of what the format of the test will be or what type of questions will be asked.
- Give yourself ample time to prepare, for GRE's you should spend at least three months preparing and studying just because of the material and depth
- KEEP CALM- most exams are used to assess where you are academically, but it does not define who you are.